You’d think that all kids would want their parents to be happy. In theory, this is absolutely true, but in practice kids don’t want their parents to be happy if that makes the kids unhappy. As weird as this sounds, it’s actually quite simple – kids don’t like to see their parents with men or women other than their father or mother. In case of widowers, kids try hard to be understanding, but don’t always succeed, and when their widowed parent starts dating, let’s say they have mixed feelings about it. Today, we take a look at how kids further complicate dating a widower, and outline all those reasons why they don’t want their widowed parent seeing somebody new.
#1: Strong Sense of Betrayal
Although kids never like to see their parents separate for whatever reason, they are particularly hurt by the loss of a mother or father not only because they’ve lost a parent, but also because they’re grieving for the survivor for having lost his or her life partner. Despite the fact they feel for the survivor’s pain, they still can’t help themselves but feel betrayed if he or she starts dating again. As much as they feel that parent’s grief, they also feel the betrayal of the deceased parent, and don’t want to see him or her replaced.
Kids are jealous and possessive no matter the age. They don’t like to share their parents with other men, women or children. They feel like the nucleus they have with the surviving parent can be breached by outsiders, such as new romantic interests. As much as they are trying to understand what the widowed parent is going through, at the same time they feel like they could lose him or her to somebody new that tries to join the family.
#3: They Fear For Their Estate
As if widower dating wasn’t hard enough, one thing is for sure – the kids aren’t going to make it any easier. In addition for not wanting their widowed parent to move on because they would feel betrayed or jealous, they also, often in secrecy, fear someone could try to take advantage of their parent and attempt to get their hands on the family estate. Kids don’t like to share, period, especially not with intruders trying to convince them they mean well and want the best for everyone.